} "text": "The Daily Mail, a British newspaper, reported in 2014 that a survey of 2,000 divorced men and women conducted in the UK indicated that 50% of respondents regretted their decision to divorce." ", "Add the fact that both my ex and I want to provide an inheritance to our kids, and divorce basically wipes that out; it gives one pause. Midlife crises are common for both men and women in middle age, but as an article from the Cleveland Clinic explains, midlife crises can present a little differently in women as compared to men. ", "He is about even with good and bad points, but I decided I no longer wanted to spend half my time unhappy, and more than anything, I wanted him to be happy more often too. "Those in their youth see the future in a more optimistic way, and that's something we need to be deliberate about in midlife, because we've been culturally trained to believe in the 'deficit model,'" Dr. Ludwig says. You cant based what you will accept during her time of crisis on what other men have accepted. My question for you is should I allow my wife to force a divorce upon me as a result of her crisis when my overwhelming rational reaction to our current situation is to save our marriage? One day she couldnt stand me and the next day she wanted me sexually. Women may pursue divorce at the end of a midlife. 12. That means just to save the marriage for convenience reasons (common income, cleaned clothes for the man etc.) I dont know whether I actually regret it, but I wish Id tried harder. So on and so forth and being 43. ", Or is he putting on an act to pacify you and keep you in the trap? I sincerely hope that you get to that same place. "@type": "Answer", ANY IDEAS ? Don't worry about whether your ex regrets leaving or not. Thank you. It still hurts today, and it's been like six years. Have you (or someone you know) gotten a divorce and regretted it? Available on Amazon.com. He left me for someone else, only to ping-pong back and forth until I said, 'Hell no.' And science backs up this theory: A ten-year study conducted at the University of Waterloo found that simply feeling older predicts lower psychological well-being and lower life satisfaction compared to those with more favorable attitudes about aging. Its the letting go that,s the killer. 18. I don't know if it's related to us being apart, personal shame, knowing that I keep my girlfriend from her, or what. On the other hand, a 2016 relationship study conducted by Avvo, an online legal services marketplace, showed that 68% of respondents (and a whopping 73% of female respondents) did not regret getting divorced. We fought regularly; I was spending more and more time away from home and feeling better for it. "acceptedAnswer": { Therapy for Midlife Crisis, Therapist for Midlife Crisis
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